April's Tip on the Mysteries of Male/Female Communication is about the importance of Body Contact when you are flirting. Let's say you have met someone at a party and are really enjoying the conversation. You are not sure you are being clear so you want to send a strong signal. This is where body contact comes in. Whether you are male or female, make sure you are standing far enough away for them to admire you but close enough for you to touch them. The best way is to punctuate the end of a sentence with an arm touch, especially on their elbow. Another is if you have to excuse yourself for a few moments, touch their arm, look them straight in the eye and ask if you can continue this conversation in the very near future. Casual body contact can be a very important mutual exchange and the best part is it clears up any verbal misommunication on whether or not you are interested. Have fun with this!
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Dear Christine,
Scenario: You've been dating for a short period of time (say, about a month...4-6 dates).
You feel that its not the right situation for you and don't want to continue seeing this person. However, the other person seems to feel its right for them and wants to continue seeing you.
How do you end it graciously and safely with someone that you've been dating for only a short while, but don't want to continue dating?
LW
Dear LW,
Solution: Think of it like removing a band-aid. Quickly. You'll be doing them a favor and allowing them to meet someone who is a better match.
It is clear you do not want to continue seeing this person and that is perfectly fine. If you have already tried hinting around the issue and it hasn't worked, you need to just be direct. Here's the recipe:
Start with a compliment, eg: You are a really fun person to hang out with
Add the break-up, eg: But I just don't feel that "indescribable something" between us
End with a compliment, eg: I want you to know that I've really enjoyed getting to know you and find you super interesting, especially the fact you?...
The band-aid is now off and yes, without fail, their feelings are going to be hurt because, remember this is the first time they know you feel this way. Be very conscious of their feelings. Do not decide to hang out together for the rest of the evening, it's best to cut things short especially since you already know exactly how you feel.
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Guests can be within 3 years of any of our age ranges.
Wednesday, April 18th - ages 35-45 (sorry, sold out for ladies)
Thursday, April 19th - ages 25-35 (sorry, sold out for ladies)
SPRING FLING Singles Parties!
Tuesday, April 24th - ages 40+ (sorry, sold out for ladies. SPOTS OPEN FOR MEN!)
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MAY 2007
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Thursday, May 10th - ages 25-35
Thursday, May 17th - ages 30-40
Wednesday, May 23rd - ages 25-35
Wednesday, May 30th - ages 35-45
APRIL 2007
Aries - If you feel like there's a whole lot of nothing going on in your romantic life on the 1st and 2nd, well, that could be because things are in a lull. Don't fret -- instead, use this romantic downtime to rest, relax and come back to yourself as much as possible. After all, romance is a whirlwind, and when it strikes, you want to be well rested and ready for it! The 4th, try doing less rather than more when it comes to romancing somebody. That is, try winking at the cutie on the bus rather than running right up to them and taking their hand (after all, you don't even know them yet!). The 8th and 9th, a lingering little love problem suddenly becomes clear to you -- do you realize that you should almost always introduce yourself before you stroke their hair in line at the coffee shop? Or that you tend to project certain kinds of problems that are really your own onto your partners? The 12th, you're a team player, and they appreciate that. The 15th, you're having a great day, romantic and otherwise. By the 20th, it all gets a little bit easier, and the 25th, you're ready to take control. The 30th, wrap up the month with a nap.
Taurus - The name of the romantic game for you, this month is communication. What? It doesn't sound like the name of the game? Well, communications are a pretty serious matter, but that doesn't mean you can't be playful about what and how you communicate. So the 1st, 2nd and 3rd, tell whomever it is you want to tell whatever it is you want to tell them, and do your best to have fun with it. It's the best way to success in all things kissing-related -- guaranteed. The 5th, don't forget that every game night requires a couple of chips-and-salsa breaks, and when you're playing the romantic communications game, it's no different. So take a break and get something to eat together. The 10th, you could find that romance is different from work in that you can't just take over the management position, which is the one that comes most naturally to you a lot of the time. Step back and let them take the reins for a while. The 15th, take a look at yourself and you'll enjoy a highly charged 17th and 18th. The 23rd and 24th, a plan or two of yours springs into quick, satisfying romantic action. By the 30th, you're ready to wrap up the month with some more playtime.
Gemini - If there's something you want in your romantic life that you don't feel like you've got, for whatever reason, the 1st and 2nd are great days to take a look at why you think whatever it is is missing. Do you have a romantic partner who doesn't give you enough attention? One who doesn't give you enough space? Or are you having trouble finding the right person in the first place? Often these are very complex issues -- instead of bemoaning the lack of whatever is lacking, why not take some time to really look hard at it? The 7th, you communicate something very important -- so pay attention to what you're saying (you could learn something from your own heart-to-heart conversations). The 12th, take advantage of your downtime to make some romantic plans -- after all, if you two don't coordinate, it's going to be pretty tough to get together! The 17th and 18th, you're spending serious time socializing -- and this is a great way to generate a romantic spark. The 22nd, overcome a logistics problem (Are they at the coffee shop on the southwest corner but you're waiting at the one on the northeast corner?) and you will have a great meeting. The 27th, make it happen. You can do it.
Cancer - The 1st, you could be feeling like you just plain don't feel like going out. You don't want to put on your party shoes. You don't want to don your going-out-to-dinner jacket. You don't want to buy or receive flowers. All you really want to do is snuggle up at home with a good book. Well, sugar pea, don't you think the best idea, then, is to do just that? Don't you think that if you don't feel romantic, you shouldn't force it? And don't forget, snuggling up at home doesn't have to happen alone. By the 5th, you're ready to invite whoever it is who's been interesting you oh-so-much over for tea and cookies. Or lasagna -- you pick. The 10th, you could be feeling pretty homebody-ish, again. There's nothing wrong with that! You'll be ready for romance the 15th and 16th, when you're feeling steadier and readier for whatever comes your way than you've felt in a long time. The 21st and 22nd, romance is coming your way -- and how! You may never feel the same again. The 27th, go ahead and let something go -- you're ready to end this month with a whole new beginning.
Leo - The 1st, when it comes to romance, you need to open up and let it all out. Yep, that's right -- talk, talk, talk, talk about it. Then talk about it some more. Talk to your friends. Talk to your siblings. Talk to your cousins. Talk to your second cousins. Talk to your therapist. Talk to an energy healer. Talk to your great-uncle Bob. And after you're done talking to all those folks, you could even consider talking to the object of your affections. Wow! Some very interesting insights could come out of this month's communications. The 4th and 5th, you get analytical. You analyze this, you analyze that. Don't forget to take a look at how you really feel as analyze all those emotions! The 11th and 12th, you could be talked out. If you're tired, take some quiet time alone. The 17th and 18th, you're ready to take another shot at this whole romance thing. Has your aim improved? The 22nd, you've identified a little problem with your romantic approach (Has talking about it so much made you realize you really shouldn't go for folks who are emotionally unavailable?). The 27th, give the whole thing another think-through and see if you can't find a way to make a change.
Virgo - The 1st and 2nd, you're ready to try something new. How new? Brand-new. Why new? Why not? After all, the way to get a romance started is the same way you keep a romance alive: going out on a limb, experimenting and not being afraid to try. Heck, some of your ideas (a romantic outdoor picnic in a sleet storm) might not pan out. But others (banana splits at three in the morning) could be real hits. So flex your imagination and stretch those creative muscles (and go for a jog -- you've got to keep your body limber too) and have a ball with romance this month. By the 7th and 8th, you're ready to enact a couple of romantic plans. The 14th, you might want to take a nap, if you're sleepy (and no, it doesn't have to be alone!). The 19th and 20th, you're at a major romantic turning point. If you keep the lines of communication open during this process, you'll do yourself a huge favor. The 25th, you see a problem and you solve it. Yep, this is the road to a healthy relationship! The 30th, get ready to wrap up the month with yet another something new. Have fun!
Libra - Wow! Did a comet just land smack in the middle of your romantic backyard, glowing mysteriously and infusing everyone who comes near it with near-miraculous romantic powers, or what? The 1st, 2nd and 3rd, it sure feels that way! It's like you have X-ray vision (and can see into their heart) and they have mind-melding capabilities (and know just what's on your mind). And the two of you have super-sensitive spidey-touch when you're out in the backyard together. Wow is right. The 9th and 10th, you shine -- is it that mysterious comet's afterglow? By the 14th, it's time to get back in touch with your friends and your family -- you know, those earthly mortals who didn't have a romance comet land in their backyard. The 19th and 20th, you have to make a choice. Are you a crime-fighter or a lover? A family type or somebody who'd rather spend their Saturdays saving the world? Big questions. The 25th, you identify a problem, and it will make your choices easier. The 28th, 29th and 30th, celebrate! Here comes another comet!
Scorpio - The 1st, 2nd and 3rd, spend some time thinking about what's going right and what's going wrong in your love life. The more specific you can be, the better. And honesty is, as always, the best policy. (Okay, when it comes to dealing with yourself, honesty is the only policy. It can be tough, though -- so give yourself plenty of room.) The 4th or 5th, something exciting could happen. Is that a spring fling? Or a ring? Ooh, only you know. By the 10th, the sooner you see things for what they are -- good or bad -- the happier you'll be. The 11th, if you want it, now's the time to make it happen. By the 16th, you should be feeling very connected romantically. Wonderful. The 19th and 20th, if you stick with something, you'll know a lot more about it than you will if you walk away. The question is, how much do you want to find out? The 24th and 25th, you're ready to meet a challenge with all your forces -- great! That's the best way to meet a challenge, after all. The 30th, why don't you two have a night out on the town? You deserve it!
Sagittarius - So what's getting in your way, romantically? Are you conflicted about letting somebody into your private sphere? So you pick people who don't want to go there, then you feel bad because there isn't enough intimacy in your relationships? Or is it something else? Take a look at some of these deep behavioral patterns the 1st and 2nd -- after all, if you're aware of them, you'll be in a much better position to tackle them. By the 7th, you're feeling really fantastic, and all the romance fairies are sitting up in their springtime flower buds (that's where they live, this time of year, you know) and taking notice. Next thing you know, those romance fairies are going to be casting some romance pollen on some very cute potential romantic partners. And you know what happens next! Yep, by the 15th and 16th, you could be meeting a bunch of starry-eyed folks who are very interested in going out with you. The 20th, it's time to watch out for some of those tricky old romantic patterns -- they can crop up mighty early in budding romantic relationships. The 25th, take a good look at any potential partner before you rub noses, and the 30th, end the month on a high note.
Capricorn - The 1st, you could feel like it's a whole new day for you, where romance is concerned. Yep, you feel like yawning, stretching, wiggling your toes and then jumping out of bed and taking a deep breath and saying, 'Yes, world, I am rested and ready for a brand-new romance!' Great -- go ahead and do it. You are ready for a brand-new romance, after all. The 5th, you could start seeing where some of the kinks are. Is the object of your affection still getting over their last relationship? Do they need time? If they do, well, you'll do best to give them the time they need to get over it. The 10th, you and they are on all the same wavelengths -- enjoy it! The 15th and 16th, something you've been working toward romantically comes into sight. Looks like you might just get whatever you want after all! The 21st and 22nd, go ahead and take a break from all this romantic excitement -- after all, nobody can be on all the time. The 25th, you are busy, busy, busy -- just make sure you make some time for them! The 30th, wrap up the month the way you started it -- ready for romance!
Aquarius - The 1st, 2nd and 3rd, you're taking a good, long look at your romantic style. Are you more of a go-getter or a waiting-to-be-got type? Are you more everything-all-at-once or slowly-but-surely? Do you prefer flowers or chocolate? The mountains or the ocean? Warm weather or cold? By the time the 8th rolls around, you'll have some interesting insights into your own romantic makeup. These will come in mighty handy the 11th and 12th, when you're in for some serious romantic action. Wow! The 17th and 18th, you take action in your own special way where action is required (if you're a go-getter, you go get, and if you're a wait-to-be-gotten type, you nudge them in the right direction to come and get you). The 21st and 22nd, you're feeling pretty great -- that's wonderful. The 27th, there's a lot going on. Don't forget to take some time for yourself in the midst of all this heady stuff. Wrap up the month with a little more romantic reflection. After all that's happened this month, has anything in your romantic makeup changed?
Pisces - The 1st, take a step back from whatever it is that's going on romantically. Now isn't the time to act, but the time to take a deep breath and then exhale. Try to stop trying to solve everything for everybody all the time. As certain point, other people have to make their own decisions and all you can do is make your own needs and boundaries clear. The 2nd and 3rd, keep working on this. (Inhale, exhale, relax. Inhale, exhale, relax.) The 7th, you come to a turning point. Do you need to make a decision? Or do you need to decide not to make any decisions? By the 11th, you really have an important insight into yourself and your needs for romantic well-being. The 13th and 14th are fantastic, fantastic, fantastic. All that deep breathing and deep thinking really helps, doesn't it? The 19th and 20th, touch base with your best friends and let them know what's going on. The 25th, give yourself plenty of time to get connected with your romantic partner (or partner to be). The 30th, you wrap up the month with a whole new perspective. What is it?
Love Horoscopes are courtesy of www.love.astrology.com
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April's Tip on the Mysteries of Male/Female Communication is about the importance of Body Contact when you are flirting. Let's say you have met someone at a party and are really enjoying the conversation. You are not sure you are being clear so you want to send a strong signal. This is where body contact comes in. Whether you are male or female, make sure you are standing far enough away for them to admire you but close enough for you to touch them. The best way is to punctuate the end of a sentence with an arm touch, especially on their elbow. Another is if you have to excuse yourself for a few moments, touch their arm, look them straight in the eye and ask if you can continue this conversation in the very near future. Casual body contact can be a very important mutual exchange and the best part is it clears up any verbal misommunication on whether or not you are interested. Have fun with this!
Dear Christine,
APRIL 2007
