The mysteries of Male/Female communication. Where do you start? There are so many topics to cover but in the coming months I want to offer you quick tips to help open up the lines of communication. March's Tip is about Eye Contact. When talking with someone we are interested in, we will often make eye contact but are we specifically looking at pupils? If their pupils are shrinking, my advice is you may want to mentally check in with the topic you are discussing - is it boring? If their pupils are growing, that's a sure sign they are interested in what you are saying and quite possibly you as well. Make sure you maintain a comfortable level of eye contact - avoid too much or too little. The involuntary pupil is a great way to gauge interest.
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Dear Christine,
What if you both have not verbally broken up, but your ex boyfriend is back with his ex? This to me is a break up. But tell me what is wrong with this man to not even tell me we were done after 1 year? Oh and by the way he still calls me and I don't answer. Any explanation? I am confused. There was nothing wrong and we did not have a fight. All of a sudden there were no phone calls, no email, nothing over Christmas then boom I find out he is in Vegas with his ex. Did he purposely leave this (mine and his) relationship open just in case he and his ex could work out again (they have been doing this for 8 years)?
Sudden Break-Up
Dear SB,
Go with your first instinct, it is a break up. Though at times it may not 'look' like a break up or 'act' like a break up, it has all the characteristics of a break up. Basic respect is one of the essentials in a successful relationship. A sudden rendezvous in Vegas with your ex is clearly not showing basic respect for your current relationship. And the answer is yes, from what you have told me your relationship was kept open so that if a chance with his ex came up, he could justify taking advantage of it. Open relationships only work in theory, not in practice. I recognize there are always two sides to the story so in order to bring closure to this relationship and to help you move on, I recommend being open to his explanation whether you agree with it or not.
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MARCH 2007
Aries - Sure, you come off as totally self-confident, in love as in everything else, but the 1st, why not take a peek behind that oh-so-confident facade. Are you actually a little bit frightened of romantic attachment? Of intimacy and the vulnerability that goes along with it? Hey, that's totally normal. The question is, why do you try so hard to hide it? Ponder that this month. The 5th and 6th, you are charming, charming, charming -- but what you might really need is a nap. Go ahead and pamper yourself -- it'll make it easier to get romantic with someone else. The 10th and 11th, go in for a little more self-analysis. What are your patterns in relationships, anyway? If you come up with at least one possible answer by the 16th, you'll be well on your way to solving a romantic problem in the present. The 20th, don't hesitate to make a date -- everything, but everything is going your way. By the 25th, you're ready to make a move -- which direction are you heading? The 30th, call them up just to say hi.
Taurus - If you really, really, really want to go out with somebody, the 1st is the day to take decisive action. Whether you wear your favorite red sweater and stand in front of them at the coffee counter or you walk straight up to them at the bagel store and say, 'Hi, I've seen you around. Do you want to go out with me?' now's the time to do it. By the 4th, you'll have a better sense of how much potential this relationship has. The 8th, take a break from any and all romantic scheming, dreaming and/or preening. It's time to spend some time with yourself! The 12th and 13th, really look at some of the places your romances have gotten stuck in the past. What can you learn from these trouble spots? The 17th, you solve a problem (You and they haven't actually met yet? And you finally introduce yourself?). The 21st and 22nd are downright glorious as far as your romantic life is concerned. The 27th and 28th, conserve your romantic gains, and the 30th, start wrapping up the month with another great date.
Gemini - No matter what you might hear to the contrary when you tune in to the '80s station on the radio, love is not a drug -- nor should it be. The 1st, take advantage of a sense of general ease in your emotional life to really examine the role but love plays for you. Does it feel calming, or addictive? Do you feel satisfied by the love you find, or does what you find always leave you wanting more? These are very important issues to look at as you embark on your quest for romance this month. Could it be you need to make some changes within yourself before you're ready for a new romance? Ask yourself that question on the 5th, and again the 6th, when somebody special catches your eye. The 10th and 11th, give yourself lots of rest -- the 12th and 13th promise to be an action-packed! By the 18th, you've reached a turning point -- has considering all those big who-am-I questions changed how you approached romance? The 23rd and 24th, enjoy yourself -- it looks very much like you might be out on a date (or two)! By the 29th, you're ready for a little more self-analysis -- go to it!
Cancer - The 2nd, 3rd and 4th, you could feel like a vaudeville performer who's just gotten out of their straitjacket while locked in a tank full of water using a tiny golden key and their teeth. When it comes to romance, it's like you've emerged, beaming, before an admiring audience as the month starts. Yep, some problem that had been holding you back has just resolved itself, thanks to your nimble underwater moves and clever thinking. Go ahead and take a well-deserved bow -- then the rush to the telephone and call up the object of your romantic attentions right away. The 9th, a whole new, straightjacket-less romantic phase could be starting for you. The 13th, rest up from all these shenanigans. By the 18th, you're ready to examine why you were wearing a romantic straightjacket and getting yourself locked up in a tank filled with water in the first place. The 23rd and 24th, a little self-exploration will go a long way toward helping you understand how you are -- and why you are how you are. The 30th, try accepting something for what it is -- this, you know, can be very romantic!
Leo - The 1st, you kick off your romantic month in super-high-powered mode. That's right, you're like a quarterback of love -- and you're heading the right down the field toward the goal posts. Whoopee! Just try not to knock over too many of the folks who get in the way. The 5th and 6th, keep your eye on the ball. Focus is going to be key to taking this romance (or potential romance) where you want it to go. By the 11th, you're ready to take off the shoulder pads, undo that football helmet, shower, put on some sweatpants and get down to the heart of the matter. How do you feel? How do they feel? How do you feel together? The answers to these questions are very important -- as you'll see the 15th and 16th, during a much-needed emotional time-out. The game is back in play the 17th and 18th -- who's ahead? You might want to rethink this us-against-them strategy on the 23rd and 24th. After all, cooperation is the name of the romance game, isn't it? The 29th, enjoy the day -- and take the night off!
Virgo - Prepare yourself: Beginning on the evening of the 2nd and continuing through the 3rd and 4th, you're in for a series of smashing romantic events. Maybe you'll meet when they drop their water glass in your lap (and you jump up in surprise and the glass falls on the floor and breaks and you look up and all you register is the light in their eyes and maybe they're even holding you in their arms and saying, 'Oh, pardon me!'). Maybe you're both at the recycling center the same day. Or it could happen at the auto wrecker. Whatever, wherever, enjoy the encounter! Where is this going, you might wonder on the 8th and 9th, when you're hit with the urge to make long-term plans. Ease up a little, and try to just enjoy the here and now. The 15th and 16th, make sure you two are really connecting, and the 20th, do your best to stop now and then in the midst of all this excitement so you can catch your breath. The 25th and 26th, if you spot a problem, address it (immediately!). By the 30th, you're feeling romantically smashing -- again!
Libra - You might spend the 1st doing a little old-fashioned evaluating. Where do romantic issues come up for you? What are your weak spots? What are your strengths? By the very romantic 5th and 6th, you won't have much time at all for this kind of heavy-duty thinking -- you'll be too busy smooching (or thinking about smooching). The 10th and 11th, the road to romance appears to be obstacle free -- go ahead and ride! The 15th and 16th, it's time to take charge of the romantic situation -- whatever that may entail. By the 19th and 20th, you could be just plain tuckered out -- romance is almost always a bit of a roller coaster, at least at the beginning. Go ahead and take a day or two off. You'll be rested and well prepared for whatever comes your way, romantically on the 25th -- and a whole lot could be coming your way. Wow! The 30th, wrap up your wowee month with a little romantic problem solving.
Scorpio - The 1st, you very well may have reached a turning point in your approach to love. Are you feeling more secure? Less guarded? More in touch with just how guarded you really are? At ease? At peace? Not yet at peace but able to imagine a route to take that might get you there? Take some time to really appreciate the magnitude of this emotional crossroads that you've come to. By the 5th and 6th, you could have a very clear insight into a long-standing problem -- wonderful! The 10th and 11th, go ahead and try something new romantically. It could be a new approach to dating, or dating a new type of person, or just being as aware as possible of how you feel during the getting-to-know-each-other process. The 16th is a day to act on a romantic impulse. By the 21st, you'll know how it panned out -- and you'll definitely be ready for a catnap! After all, it's tiring to try new things -- especially things like acting on an impulse! The 26th, take a step back and assess: How has it been going this month? The 30th, take a step forward and assess: Where is this potential romance going?
Sagittarius - The 1st, you could have a real a yen to express yourself romantically. So, how do you really feel about that sweetie pie you met at the International Translators of Many Languages Conference? How many languages would you like to say it in? Why not get some of the other folks you met at the International Translators of Many Languages Conference to help you compose just the right message in just the right 20 to 40 distinct languages? The object of your affection is bound to be pleased. By the 4th, you find that some old romantic hang-up just isn't hanging you up, anymore. The 9th, go ahead and look to the trees, birds, flowers or stars for inspiration. There's nothing more romantic than plain old nature, you know. By the 13th, you're ready to take the next step -- so call them up and ask them out the old-fashioned way! Straight talk is appealing, even to international translators of many languages. The 19th, you're feeling great and so are they. By the 24th, you might be tired out -- take a breath! The 29th, spend the day daydreaming if you like, and the evening bringing about a great big romantic change.
Capricorn - The 1st, you have your romantic thinking cap on, alright. What's a romantic thinking cap? Well, it's a lot like a regular thinking cap, except that a romantic thinking cap specifically helps you think about romance. So slip it on and let your brain go to work on how to get that very special romance going just the way you want it to get going. The 4th, you're in serious stock-taking mode -- have you put on your romantic stock-taking socks to go with your romantic thinking cap? Looks like it! What are you finding as you take stock? Are you consistently picking the wrong people? The right people at the wrong time? Have you just found (maybe) the right person at the right time? Cool! The 9th, add your getting-down-to-romantic-business bowtie to your ensemble. Then go ask them out. The 15th and 16th, get those romantic walking shoes on your feet, and the 20th, get walking! Right over to their cubicle! When you get there, say hi! Let the conversation build from there! The 25th, you might want to take off all those fancy clothes and take a relaxing bubble bath. The 30th, end the month with a little evaluation: How did things go this month?
Aquarius - Start the month with a nice, long, relaxing, romantic deep breath. Breathe in, breathe out. Try it again. Don't do anything else. What comes to mind when you take these romantic deep breaths? Do you have visions of ways in which you could maybe let go a little? Other ways in which you could maybe be a little more active? Yet others in which you could probably simply find a better balance? Interesting stuff, no? The 5th and 6th, keep breathing -- and get to work making a change or two in your internal romantic dynamic. The 11th, you solve a problem (if you keep breathing deep!). The 15th and 16th, you won't have to think about breathing -- everything is going so well, it's bound to happen all on its own. The 21st, it's time to take a brand-new romantic step (what is it?). The 26th, make a love (or at least a 'like') connection. By the 30th, you're ready to wrap up the month with a bunch of romantic action!
Pisces - What's on your mind when it comes to romance on the 1st? Rather than focusing on expanding -- that is, meeting new people, one of whom might prove to be your future honey bun -- give some thought to what you've got so far. How are your romances looking? Are they stumbling in similar or in very different ways? Can you trace the origins of some of these patterns to your early emotional life? Things you learned as a child, perhaps? The 5th and 6th, keep up the good thinking -- you could be surprised at some of the insights you have. The 10th and 11th, you move from a reflective mood into an active one, and it probably feels good (but that doesn't mean reflective moods aren't good for you too!). The 15th, you go back to being reflective, and the 17th, a really great two days begin for you. Everything is going great! The 23rd, if you feel like kissing them, kiss them. By the 29th and 30th, you're ready to start winding down -- go ahead!
Love Horoscopes are courtesy of www.love.astrology.com
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The mysteries of Male/Female communication. Where do you start? There are so many topics to cover but in the coming months I want to offer you quick tips to help open up the lines of communication. March's Tip is about Eye Contact. When talking with someone we are interested in, we will often make eye contact but are we specifically looking at pupils? If their pupils are shrinking, my advice is you may want to mentally check in with the topic you are discussing - is it boring? If their pupils are growing, that's a sure sign they are interested in what you are saying and quite possibly you as well. Make sure you maintain a comfortable level of eye contact - avoid too much or too little. The involuntary pupil is a great way to gauge interest.
Count us as another Six Minute Dates success! Neil and I met at the Feb.10th, 2005 evening arranged by Six Minute Dates and recently got engaged.
MARCH 2007
