Many people have been asking me, "Why do some people get several matches and others don't? What are the secrets to being more successful at your events?"
Success at speed-dating follows the same rules as success in many other areas of your life. It has a lot to do with your attitude and approach. I often see people experiencing much better results after making a few tiny changes to their approach.
From hosting hundreds of events, here are the facts:
The women who shine at our events and match with several men are the ones who clearly take time for themselves, are open, confident and casual. They remember that the most important accessories are a great attitude and a SMILE.
The men who shine at our events and match with several women are the ones who clearly engage in each date. They treat every one of their dates with interest and respect, regardless of feeling a romantic connection or not. They feel and act confident.
There are many other factors involved but generally successful speed-dating is a result of being relaxed yet confident.
As a Date Coach, here's a friendly reminder of my new website, www.yourdatecoach.com. Please feel free to contact me any time to discuss how date coaching can help you or someone you know turn their love life right around.
Enjoy our November issue and do tell if you have any requests for topics you would like to see in future editions.
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"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." ~ Mark Twain
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Please note: There will not be a December issue of our Newsletter as we will not be hosting any scheduled events in December. Enjoy the Holiday season - our events will start up again in January!
Sincerely,
Dear Christine,
I have read dating advice from multiple sources that you (as the female) should wait for the guy to pursue you, to be sure that he is really into you. Also, that when you are just getting to know people, it is good to date a few people at once so that you keep perspective and don't get attached to the wrong person too soon. The problem is, no guy pursues me at all. So what can I do?
Not Being Pursued
Dear NBP,
You've got to get yourself out there! Ask yourself these questions, "What am I currently doing to attract the right guy into my life?", "Do I appear happy and approachable?", "What is my attitude toward men and dating right now - positive or cynical?", "Am I happy with my appearance right now?", "How self-confident do I feel?" Asking these types of questions will likely open your eyes to what is currently going on and highlight where you need to make some changes. Recognize where you may need to make some adjustments and do them! The key is to be happy and confident with yourself but recognize you would like to share your life with a partner. This attitude, coupled with a proactive search, will bring the right guy into your life.
On July 20, I met Guy at the Bean Scene and it was great! We both chose one another and then emails were missed but things were figured out and we started dating on July 30. Since August we have been apart for maybe 5 days in total. Guy is someone that I find myself looking into the future with. This is something I have never done or ever thought possible.
We are together, we are in love and we owe it to your company for the opportunity to meet. Both Guy and I wish you and your company many more successes!
Speed-Dating at Coffee J's:
(licensed) 795-1st Ave SW
Thursday, November 9th - ages 25-35 (spots open for LADIES, sold out for men)
Wednesday, November 15th - ages 30-40 (spots open for MEN, sold out for ladies)
Wednesday, November 22nd - ages 35-45 (spots open for MEN, a few spots open for LADIES)
ALSO, We will be hosting 2 large-scale HOLIDAY PARTIES at the BeatNiq Jazz Club in November
Tuesday, November 28th- ages 40+, 8:00pm-12:00am, The BeatNiq Jazz Club (non-smoking), 811-1st St. SW
Status: Spots Available for MEN! Sorry, sold out for Women.
Thursday, November 30th- ages 25-40, 8:00pm-12:00am, The BeatNiq Jazz Club (non-smoking), 811-1st St. SW
Status: Spots Available for MEN! Sorry, sold out for Women
Join us at the Beat Niq Jazz Club for a stylish and fun night of delicious appetizers, drink specials, fabulous music, fun mixers and the perfect opportunity to meet your match! Tons of matches result from our large scale events so you won't want to miss them!
Tickets are $45.00 + tax, inc. delicious appetizers.
Tickets can be purchased online only by visiting our website Events Calendar. Tickets are not available at the door.
This is a private party. Space is limited to 90 guests (45 women, 45 men) per evening so book early to guarantee your spot!
NOVEMBER 2006
Aries - You're good at reading people, sugarplum, and that's a real plus when it comes to romance. But don't forget that you can read the other person cover-to-cover and still not have a clue what's going on romantically if you haven't taken a peek at your own pages. The 1st, train your reading glasses inward. Leaf through your own emotional chapters and see what you can glean about where you're at and why you're there. Make a few notes -- heck, you could even summarize the key points (in Chapter 1 we see the main character's emotional strengths, while in Chapter 2 the main character faces one of his or her romantic weaknesses ...). The 3rd you'll already see the difference that reading your own pages can make (and any potential romantic partner will notice the difference too!). The 8th and 9th you're ready to give an oral report on what you've learned to a very small audience (preferably of one -- the one you'd like to smooch!). The 13th and 14th, whether you call them or write them or show up at their bus stop, do whatever it takes to get in touch. By the 19th, you may have started a book club just for the two of you. The 23rd and 24th, things in your romantic world really start to shift. Is it a plot twist or brand new beginning? The 30th, wow -- it looks like you're in for a real happy ending!
Taurus - The 1st you start out the month with a serious romantic insight. Is it something along the lines of 'love is patient'? Or 'love is kind'? Or 'love is not jealous'? Whatever it is that occurs to you, you're really on to something that's going to influence your romantic decisions (for the better). The 3rd, don't be surprised if an admirer is as interested in gazing at your proverbial navel as you are -- heck, being given to quiet self-reflection can be a really attractive trait! The 7th, let anybody you're interested in know where you stand. It's polite and it'll make them happy to know. The 11th and 12th you really need to share whatever it is you're feeling -- and the more creatively you do that, the better. The 16th and 17th, if you want to make something you've been dreaming about (e.g., a romantic, wasabi-filled date at the sushi place down the street) into a reality, now is a good time to take steps in that direction (i.e., call them and invite them!). The 22nd, don't forget: An obstacle is an opportunity. Repeat that several times to yourself. The 27th, spend the day making decisions and the evening kicking back. Go ahead and indulge in some more serious romantic insights.
Gemini - What's going on in your emotional space, sweet pea, come the 1st of the month? Are you contemplating a big change? Moving in? Breaking up? Something in between? It looks like you might very well be thinking about where you are and where you want to go and how you're going to get there, romantically speaking, this month. Take your time and do it right and you can't go wrong (sometimes, even things that seem wrong end up being right). The 5th you'll do best if you do the following: communicate, communicate, communicate. The 10th, spend the day doing something brand new -- even if that means just approaching your daily routine with a more-than-usually romantic eye (Don't just make the bed -- make it and put a rose on your pillow! Don't just pour syrup on hotcakes -- pour syrup on your hotcakes in a heart shape!). The 14th, you care. But do you dare to share how much you actually care with the object of said care? Try it. The 19th you aren't afraid to go deep -- even if it is a little uncomfortable. It's always a good idea to really examine your most secret, hidden emotional zones. The 23rd and 24th there's a lot going on -- can you handle it? Of course you can! The 28th, get ready: You could be in for another big romantic change. Go with it!
Cancer - The 1st you might want to make like a romance-squirrel and climb up to your romance-squirrel's hidey hole and take stock of what kind of emotional resources you've got socked away for the winter. Let's see. Do you have enough patience, up there in the tree hollow of your soul? Enough energy for others? Enough imagination? Could you use a few more cuddles or caresses? It's not too late to go out and forage for a couple of smooches (for the long winter) and maybe you could find a little extra tenderness, while you're at it, before the snows set in. The 4th, you could come across a problem (is there too much patience stored up in your wintertime romantic reserve cubby? Is it taking up the room that should be occupied by the courage to call and ask them on a date?). The 9th, you've solved that problem, and you could get a bonus in the form of a romantic surprise too! The 13th and 14th, you take good care of all your romantic hopes and dreams, making sure they have a nice, warm, dry space in your heart. The 19th, a romantic potential could turn up at work. Who is that cutie, anyway? The 22nd, why not unlock your extra-courage storehouse and find the guts to ask them out? By the 24th, you're ready for some romantic rest and relaxation, and the 28th, some romantic rest and relaxation is ready for you!
Leo - Not even a romantic smarty pants like you who knows -- mostly -- what they want when and from whom and why and how, has all the answers all the time. The 1st, sure, you have a lot of the answers when it comes to romance. But you don't have all of them. As for those answers you don't have -- well, part of the excitement of falling in love lies in not knowing everything, right? So go with it this month -- whatever happens romantically, you'll discover a lot about what you already knew and what you still have to find out. The 4th and 5th something changes. Did the sweetie you've been hankering for just become single? Or are you taking a sweet single off the market? The 9th, don't flip if there's a problem -- the road to true love is supposed to be a little bumpy, you know. The 13th and 14th, the more you tell them, the more they'll know about how you feel (yep, it's just that simple). By the 19th it's okay to be analytical, but don't hand your honey (or could-be honey) a spreadsheet of your feelings -- at least, not yet. Maybe when you know them better, it'll be okay to deal in matrixes. The 23rd and 24th, talk, talk, talk to them and you'll be surprised how many answers you two come up with. By the 30th it's time to sit back, take a break and think about all you've learned so far.
Virgo - Well, sure. When you know what (or whom) you want, there's nothing that can keep you from making a well-organized, concentrated effort to get it (or them). The 1st, you could find that your problem, romantically speaking, isn't so much getting what you want as figuring out what it is you want. So take advantage of your downtime to look at a few of these questions. What do you want, romantically? Who can give that to you? Who can't? Who might be able to? What can you easily give, and what's harder for you, in a relationship? The 5th you're still in questioning mode, but you're getting ready to throw your weight behind one romantic strategy or another. By the 9th, a problem becomes clear. (Have you been deluding yourself as to a certain person's emotional availability or overlooking the person who really is emotionally available -- not to mention quite cute?) You solve that old problem by the 12th when you do what you need to do to get the available cutie's attention. The 13th and 14th are pretty darned auspicious romantic days, so do something stunning. By the19th, you show you care by being critical -- and they might not quite get it. They might just feel criticized. They might not like it, or feel liked by you. So try to be gentler than usual, okay? The 23rd and 24th, something very special is well under way, and the 30th you wrap up the month with plenty of excitement.
Libra - One thing that can be said of you, especially on the 1st, is that you aren't one to be daunted by a romantic challenge or two. So they're moving to Paris next week. Heck, if you like them, you'll look into jobs in their new arrondissement. So they're afraid of commitment. You'll just do all the committing for the both of you! Hey, wait a sec -- what's wrong with this picture? Sure, courage in the face of obstacles (romantic or otherwise) is a good thing, but doing all the work isn't! So this month, check in with some of your behaviors. What's working well? What could use improvement? The 5th an outside opinion could help. The 7th an objective outside opinion could help a lot. The 9th a super-objective, very intelligent outside opinion could really help a whole lot. You might even reach an important turning point, thanks to this outside insight. Great! The 14th you could be surprised when you meet somebody who wants to do just as much romantic work as you do. The 19th try something new -- like letting them do as much work, romantically, as they'd like to! The 22nd you could be shocked by how easy it all is with both of you pulling your weight. The 27th, do something special for yourself, and the 30th, go ahead and let them do something special for you!
Scorpio - Okay, nobody likes to make sacrifices all that much. Given the choice, most folks would prefer to just do whatever it is they like doing best, rather than compromise with somebody else who wants to do something the first person doesn't even like doing second-best. But sometimes, togetherness requires a little compromise. Yep, a little sacrifice could be called for. So the 1st, if you like ballroom dancing and they like water ballet, you might have to give in -- and give up your Wednesday night fox-trot in favor of watching the Power Mermaids do their thing at the synchronized swimming competition at the community pool. That is, you might have to if you want this romance to go anywhere. And you do want the romance to go somewhere, don't you? The 5th, give compromising (and everything else, including your own sweet self) a rest. You're tired! The 9th, do a mini self-review. Are you getting high romantic marks, in your own humble opinion? The 12th, discretely administer your romantic mini review to your romantic object. How do they rate your romanticism? The 17th you solve a problem in a jiffy -- good for you! By the 22nd, be honest with yourself about something (e.g., what you really want, romance-wise). The 27th and 28th, uh oh! It looks like the old sacrifice monster is eating cookies in your bed again!
Sagittarius - Okay, you're nice. You're a nice person, you're nice looking, you have nice friends. And you're interesting, and you're witty, and people like you. So, you ask, why haven't you found Mr. or Ms. Perfect yet? Well, silly, because it's (a) really hard to do, partly because (b) nobody's perfect. So cool down on the 1st and don't forget: You're great and you're going to find somebody great. If not now, then later. The 5th you could be in for a surprise romp in the proverbial hay. Oooh! You weren't really expecting that, were you? The 9th there could be a whole lot of romantic activity, real sudden-like. Is 'later' here sooner than you thought? The 13th and 14th things could take a turn for the sizzling -- whew! Is that Mr. or Ms. Practically-Perfect-for-All-Intents-and-Purposes ringing your doorbell? Well, it sure looks like it could be. The 19th, don't freak out if the maitre d' can't find your reservations. Remember, nobody's perfect (not even you) and this restaurant, appropriately enough, is practically perfect for all intents and purposes. The 21st and 22nd everything is so smooth and groovy you might argue that, yes, sometimes things are just, well -- perfection. The 27th and 28th, yep, you're still nice. Be a little bit go-getter to get what you want and you'll show them that nice guys and gals finish anything but last.
Capricorn - Some folks write poetry. Some folks say lots of flowery things. You, on the 1st, aren't doing any such fancy-pants thing. Nope, this month you're going to show 'em you care through your actions. You're going to help them cook a pie. You're going to build them a new carburetor. You're going to pick them up from the bus stop and give them a surprise lift to work. Sometimes, practical things are the best test of love, you know. The 4th and 5th they're responding in kind. They might bake you a cake. Or paint your front door. You'll appreciate it. The 9th you could be tuckered out from all this activity! Call the object of your affection and ask if they want to come over and watch a movie. The 12th you could have a searing romantic insight. Oooh! What is it? Tell them on the 16th, when the relationship could take on a whole new dimension. The 20th, 21st and 22nd you could wake up in the middle of the night and realize that there's a problem! What is it? Can you fix it? These are questions to answer before the 23rd and 24th, when it turns out that everything between you two is actually just grand. The 30th your romantic keyword is 'action'!
Aquarius - Well, if you like somebody, you don't make a mystery of it. Nope, you show them -- in your come-hither looks, your let-us-go-thither actions, your emails, your phone calls and your brightly colored scarves (you know, the ones that say, 'Yes, winter is coming, but the cold can't douse my fire for you'). The 1st, it looks like there's somebody who's inspiring all these things in you. Go ahead and let them know where you're at! The 3rd you do a good job accepting something that isn't exactly the way you wish it was (Are they moving to Alaska? Or do they have a pet that looks a lot like a grizzly bear, and it scares you?). The 8th and 9th, call them -- and if there's something fishy happening on their end of the line, call them on it. By the 13th, you'll have taken a little time out, and you might be ready to reevaluate. The 18th and 19th you make a decision (Yes? No? Yes to them, no to the grizzly bear-like house pet? And what do they say?). The 22nd you might have to grapple with a few new issues. Are they yours this time? The 26th everything is going swimmingly. Enjoy the heck out of it, you romantic adventurer, you!
Pisces - Hee, hee, hee. Who's a little love muffin on the 1st? Who's a warm baked goodie of romantic delight? Who's being nibbled with gusto? Why, you are, you romantic Wonder Bread, you! Things are going great, this month, in the hugs-and-kisses aisle of the all-natural, wholesome and delicious bakery called 'You.' So warm up a mug of cocoa and enjoy it! The 5th what was going great is going to get even easier -- nothing like letting go to let things really, really get going, is there? The 9th, something thrilling is underway, and the 11th, make sure you're talking about it. The 16th and 17th there could be so much fermenting in your romantic world that it's hard to get a handle on all of it immediately; give it time. The 21st and 22nd you have a new sense of responsibility toward both your loved one and yourself. Wow, this could be some pretty major stuff, actually. What kinds of discussions have you all been having? The 27th, 28th and during the day of the 29th, romance is like a frosted cupcake -- sweet and light and wonderful. Just be sure you're getting your leafy greens in too (you are, aren't you). What a great month it's been, chef!
Love Horoscopes are courtesy of www.love.astrology.com
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Successful Speed-Dating
On July 20, I met Guy at the Bean Scene and it was great! We both chose one another and then emails were missed but things were figured out and we started dating on July 30. Since August we have been apart for maybe 5 days in total. Guy is someone that I find myself looking into the future with. This is something I have never done or ever thought possible.
NOVEMBER 2006
