Dating in large quantities is the first goal of any successful relationship-seeker. Inviting a series of opportunities to meet a partner into your life is important. The fact is, if you don't have any suitors going in the "potential relationship pipeline", then you won't find true love coming out the other end. It's the simple rule of effort = results. It works in all areas of our lives. We'll bend over backwards to try and find the perfect job but sometimes are resistant to lifting a finger when it comes to meeting a potential partner. Yes, I agree and wish we could go back in time where it just "happened" and Mr./Miss Right lived down the street or worked in the office next door. But for reasons beyond the parameters of a short Editor's Note, times have changed.
Using modern day dating services and events, whether it be speed-dating or online, makes it easy to find eligible singles. Eventually you find what method works best for you.
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Enjoy our October issue and do tell if you have any requests for topics you would like to see in future editions.
"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." ~ Mark Twain
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Sincerely,
Dear Christine,
This guy has been glancing at me for months now and we got to know each other on one occasion where he introduced himself. Unfortunately, when he did, I ignored him (because I was nervous). Following that, on two other occasions when I saw him, he seemed a bit pissed. Last week I tried to initiate a conversation but he was a bit cold, no eye contact at all. How should I deal with this now? Was he ever interested?
Too Nervous
Dear TN,
Sorry to say it but the guy has a right to appear "a bit pissed". You likely gave him some signals to say it was okay to approach you and then when you totally ignored him, it likely hurt his ego a lot.
Okay, so what are going to do about it? You need to shift into apology mode. This poor guy's defense mechanisms have kicked in and that is why he is not responding to you with conversation or eye contact. You need to walk right up to him and give him his ego back. Find a time where he is on his own and the first words out of your mouth should be something like, "Hi, my name is.....I want to apologize for the other day. You caught me a little off guard. I've seen you around and I'm glad you came up to talk to me. Can I buy you a coffee sometime?" There the tough part is over and his ego will be mildly repaired. During coffee, you can mention you were a little nervous and that is why you ignored him - even crack a joke about yourself and your nerves.
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OCTOBER 2006
Aries - So, you little love muffin, you little cafe au lait with extra cream and sugar, you little breakfast treat of love, you! What's happening in your romantic life on the 1st? And the 2nd? And the 3rd? And all month long? You're the best person to answer that question as the month begins, because you start the month with some terrific insight. It's almost as if you take a look inside of your very yummy heart and see exactly what's going on. What's working, romantically? What isn't? What do you need to change? Or maybe just understand better about yourself? There's lots to work with -- so get going! The 6th and 7th could be wildly romantic days, thanks to all of this internal analysis. Who is that cutie you're sharing a blueberry scone with at the corner cafe, anyway? On the 12th and 13th, if you do your best, they'll know it. And guess what? It's very likely going to work! By the 18th, it could be time for you to talk to somebody -- brother, sister, cousin, aunt, friend, therapist -- about how you feel. Are you ready for romance? Really? You probably are -- but go into it honestly. On the 23rd, a tussle could sting. That's okay. By the 28th, you'll be at a real turning point.
Taurus - As light dawns on the 1st day of the month, you may find yourself lying in bed and thinking. There may be wildly different thoughts in your mind, such as 'What will I have for breakfast?' and 'Why do some animals have tails, while others don't?' But somewhere in your thoughts there should be something to the tune of 'Am I honest about what I want in a partner?' or 'Do I know myself well enough to let someone love me?' And maybe even: 'What can I do to be more honest and loving with myself and any potential romantic partner?' Beginning to answer some of these questions is your task this month. If you need some help (such as an outside opinion), seek it out on the 4th, 5th, 6th or 7th, and by the 8th and 9th, well, there could be a real romantic breakthrough or two happening! On the 15th and 16th, when it comes to emotional honesty, there's no stopping you. On the 20th and 21st, go to a party (you never know whom you might run into). It's back to meandering thoughts on the 27th and 28th. What kinds of questions are you asking now?
Gemini - There are times when you're a communicating machine. You talk, you share, you talk some more. If those times happen to be ocurring less frequently (like only when you're delivering a talk to an audience of 500 eager listeners and never when you're one-on-one with a cute potential flame), you might need to change something. Why not get started on the 1st, 2nd and 3rd? After all, there's no time like the present. And communication needs to happen one-on-one for an intimate relationship to work. Why do you sometimes have trouble talking about your feelings, anyway? Why not try to pay attention to when and how things get tricky on the 5th, 6th and 7th? Sometimes just being aware that something is difficult goes a long way toward changing it. On the 13th, you're in much more of a 'talk about it' mode. How does it feel? And who's that hottie giving you the 'I'd like to talk to you alone' eye on the 15th? Find out on the 17th and 18th! By the 22nd and 23rd, you're chatting it up about how you feel and why you feel that way. And your interlocutor is loving it! On the 28th, you're at the center of a series of very romantic communications. Great!
Cancer - Hey there, you little bug of love, you little emotion on wings. You're a buzzing, loving honeybee! Have you been so busy with work lately that you've been neglecting the softer side of life? You know, the cuddly side of life? Love and romance? Hmm. Are you really that busy? Are you -- maybe -- a little afraid of getting hurt, so you stay too busy to get involved? Ask yourself these and other (hard) questions on the 1st, 2nd and 3rd. There's nothing like a little (or a lot) of honesty to get the month started, is there? On the 4th and 5th, keep asking. The 8th and 9th could see a real shift: Have you identified at least one good thing you do and one bad (or self-defeating) thing you do, romancewise? Way to go! On the 12th and 13th, you feel good. You look even better than you usually do (heck, that's what happens when you feel so good, silly!) and you could very well get a tantalizing romantic offer. Oh, good! What is it? You don't have to tell. On the 18th, are you taking chicken soup to someone whose fevered glance ignites sparks in your heart? Cool! On the 22nd and 23rd, they've gotten over their cold, and you two can get busy making plans (for a date!). On the 28th, check in with yourself and ask a few more hard questions -- then go out and have a ball!
Leo - There are nights for going out dancing. There are nights for staying home with a movie. There are nights for pasta. There are nights for sushi. There are nights for fighting. There are nights for making up. There are date nights and late nights. And for you, the 1st, 2nd and 3rd are nights for not doing a whole lot of anything. Yep, it can't be all romance all the time -- and that's a good thing. You need to spend a little time going internal, asking yourself how you feel. And sleeping. All this will lead, of course, to more romance -- it's kind of like a farmer letting a field lie sallow until it's ready for plowing and planting again. So don't despair! You're rested and ready for love by the major turning point days coming your way on the 8th and 9th. And you're even more ready when they give you their number -- or a call -- on the 14th, 15th or 16th. On the 21st, you look very, very ready for one of those aforementioned nights (sushi? dancing?). Have fun! By the 25th, you get philosophical (and why not?). On the 28th, is that you -- getting a kiss?
Virgo - You've always known that there's nothing wrong with a little positivity. Or a whole lot of it, for that matter. Actually, you know something that a lot of folks are unclear about: that the more optimistic you're about things like romance and love, the more likely you're to get just what you want -- romance, love and more romance. On the 1st, 2nd and 3rd, you bring this positivity to bear on all your interactions, and if something good happens, well, you have only yourself to hold accountable! On the 8th and 9th, it could be time to evaluate your outlook. Don't forget that optimism isn't the same as blindness to reality, and if the reality is that your love interest is a self-defeating pessimist, move on. On the 14th, make a date with a potential cutie, or just with your buddies. The 20th and 21st may find you smooching in public. Oh, my! (Don't forget to enjoy every minute of it.) On the 25th, if you want it (or them), make it happen. This goes for everything -- not just romance (though it goes for romance, too). On the 30th, get connected in whatever way feels right.
Libra - On the 1st, 2nd and 3rd, if you have a romantic attachment starting, look for things to begin to sizzle. What should you look for? Oh, the usual: movie dates, the sharing of popcorn, reaching for popcorn simultaneously. Then you might experience the salty, buttery meeting of fingers in the popcorn bag and, if things are going really well, the ensuing fight for exactly the same piece of popcorn, followed by a discreet popcorn fight, followed by a salty, buttery smooch right there in the movie theatre. Who the heck cares if you miss the movie's climax? On the 8th and 9th, you two could really be in the thick of it -- are you microwaving popcorn at home and renting a movie? Oh, spicy! On the 13th, you may need to make a decision. Is this right for you? Are you ready? What's that you say? Yes? Oh, good -- then go for it! On the 18th, well, what did you expect? That there would never, ever be a problem between you and your popcorn-loving sweetheart? Well, that was a little unrealistic, wasn't it? By the 22nd and 23rd, you could be ready to try something new. (How about caramel-flavored popcorn?) On the 30th, give them a kiss if you see them. Ahhh! Love is sweet. Or salty. And buttery. And so much more.
Scorpio - As the month starts, the 1st, 2nd and 3rd, you could be faced with one of those critical points in romance: namely, do you want it, and if so, what are you willing to do to get it? Is he or she a professional sailor? And do you like them? Enough to look up sailing-for-beginners courses offered in your vicinity? Enough to take a weekend course? Enough to sign up for a two-week jaunt in the North Sea with them and four of their sailing friends on a tiny boat through rough waters after your one-weekend sailing course preparation? Wow. You really like them. That's great -- just be sure you take care of yourself out there! And wear your life jacket! On the 6th and 7th, talk things over, and the 13th, why not review your First Aid skills. The 15th and 16th, you could reach a major turning point (what do you mean, there are big waves? What do you mean by 'big'?). Do you say 'yes' or 'no'? The 18th, face a problem straight on, and by the 22nd and 23rd, the sailing is smooth (and is that a smooch under the stars?). The 27th and 28th, climb up to the poop deck of life and take a long, hard look at the horizon. Impressive, isn't it?
Sagittarius - If you've been feeling frustrated with all things 'romance' lately, then you'll be more than ready for the breakthrough coming your way on the 1st, 2nd and 3rd. (And if you haven't been feeling frustrated, heck, you'll be excited just the same.) Where will this move forward take you? You'll know more by the 7th, a day in which you should combine a potential romance and some kind of strenuous outdoor exercise. On the 13th, you two are doing something exciting. The question is, what? By the 17th, you could be ready to commit. Are they? On the 21st, you see a problem. Is it a big problem? A little one? Is it round, square, purple, smooth? Is it prickly with green hairs all over it? Did your potential sweetie forget to clean their bathroom for months at a time, maybe? Does that bother you? Maybe you should talk about it. On the 24th, 25th and 26th, problems (especially with cleaning habits) are the last thing on your mind. Things are going well -- and how! On the 30th, ease off and everything should be smooth sailing. Great.
Capricorn - On the morning of the 1st, don't be totally shocked beyond belief if you wake up and think, 'Gosh, I'm pretty happy with my romantic situation,' regardless of what said romantic situation happens to be. That's right, you know. On a given day, you can be completely content with being single, in deep-but-unrequited-love, involved in a blossoming potential romance, or up to your ears in the nitty-gritty of an established relationship. The trick is having the right perspective and a grounded sense of self and faith in the world. There's beauty in all of it, you know. Hold onto the feeling of peace you have on the 1st as much as you can. On the 5th, whatever your romantic status, things get easier. On the 10th and 11th, you feel a lot more connected. On the 15th and 16th, you're really in the thick of things, and you might kind of like it (even if there's some tension). By the 20th and 21st, a super insight clears a whole lot of murky stuff right up. On the 25th, you're getting philosophically involved in this whole 'love' thing. That's great preparation for the 27th and 28th, when you start to wrap up the month with a feeling of intense contentment. Wow.
Aquarius - Well, well. Who's the fresh and delicious cutie who's attracting the glances (and in some cases, unabashed stares) of romantically inclined passersby on the 1st, 2nd and 3rd? Don't be silly! It's you, of course! Well, we all knew you were a hot potato in the salad bar of romance, so it's no surprise that everybody wants you on their plate! Hold out for the right one, though, okay? You don't want to end up covered in chocolate and gravy because you went for the first empty plate to come your way (do you?). On the 6th and 7th, it looks like maybe you've picked a winner from your glut of admirers. Are they yummy enough to nibble? You're really cooking up something on the 13th, and it's getting downright steamy in there on the 18th. How spicy do you like things on the 20th and 21st? Ask yourself (and them), before you add too much (or too little!) pepper to the pot. On the 25th, your tastes might clash. Heck, it happens. Go out for pizza. On the 29th and 30th, you two are cooking up something new. Is it fusion? Whatever it is, it's going to taste good.
Pisces - On the 1st, 2nd and 3rd, you start your romantic month by withdrawing a little from interactions and spending some time getting a feel for yourself. How is everything, especially down there in your heart? Are you feeling fragile? Strong? Tough? Stringy? Supple? Don't judge -- just notice. By the 4th and 5th, you feel some thrilling stirrings in your heart strings. Could that be the first chords of a new love? It sure could. Do you know the words? If not, make them up! On the 10th and 11th, if you want to make a move, well, do it. On the 15th and 16th, don't forget that human connection is one of the mainstays of a happy life -- so call, write, visit, take their hand or even kiss them. On the 20th and 21st, you're really in the middle of everything -- how does it feel? Exciting? Stressful? Both? What's your heart saying or singing on the 25th? Is it time to go? Time to stay? Time to talk it over with someone? On the 30th, go back to sounding out your internal situation. Do your heart strings need a little tuning? Or are they just right?
Love Horoscopes are courtesy of www.love.astrology.com
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Dear Christine,
OCTOBER 2006
