So how are those New Year's resolutions going? Shocking, but it's already March and a good time to check in to see if you're on track. If you've veered a bit, don't despair - there is one thing you can focus on to get you back on track:
Confidence.
Every study shows that Confidence is the main attribute people are attracted to in a potential mate. Really, there's no way around it so if you are a little low in the confidence department, and want to do something about it, here's a summary of some great tips I have learned and now recommend:
Focus on your Strengths: Rather than always trying to work on your weaknesses, try to spend time capitalizing on your strengths. Do more of what you are naturally good at.
Remind yourself of Success: Journal your successes and greatest accomplishments. They can be used as a pick-me-up on a bad day.
Building confidence is a win-win - as you feel better, you attract success to your life in all areas - dating, fitness, work, etc. Isn't it nice to know that by working on one thing, increasing confidence, you can change ALL areas of your life? It truly works.
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"Love is the irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired." ~ Mark Twain
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Sincerely,
Q: OK, Christine here's one for you . . . I am a smart, very well-educated lady and I always feel as if I have to "dumb-down" when around men. I like to express well-founded, well researched opinions. Yet when asked questions, actually "knowing" the answers seems to result in men running for the hills. It's clear that I tend to intimidate them. What am I supposed to say when asked what I do?!? I have three degrees, including one in law and a master's degree in neuroendocrinolgy of reproduction. When I was much younger, I could get away with saying I had a grad degree in sex, with a law degree on the side, but since passing through middle-age (I'm almost 44), as a single parent (never married nor "shacked up") of a teenaged daughter, that just does not cut it. Any pearls of wisdom?!?
A: With more and more women moving up in the workforce, this is becoming a bigger issue. Though we, as women, are proud of where we are and where we are going, for a lot of men it is, on some levels, intimidating. We are right in the middle of an entire paradigm shift. Recognizing we are right in the middle of it, and not beyond it, is what is going to help you. Ask sons and grandsons down the road and you may have to remind them of a time where women needed to sometimes "dumb themselves down" - they may not believe it.
Learn to walk the fine line with flair is my advice to you. Men like it when you are smart, but not way smarter than them. That will never change. Be proud of your accomplishments, but recognize they are Your accomplishments and you did them for yourself - not in order to impress others. Once you recognize this in yourself, your confidence will naturally exude without even mentioning your credits. This attracts men to you and allows them to feel more comfortable around you. Answer questions not to impress but to delicately inform - you will appear interesting as opposed to intimidating. Modesty is key, not just in dating but in all areas of life. Modesty is not equivalent to "dumbing down", it is the idea of having quiet confidence. Finally, make an effort to spend more time asking the men you date questions about themselves. Take these pearls, make some adjustments and I know you will see changes.
When I went to a session back in March 2005, I met an amazing man, Darcy. We've been so happy, and strong, and we foresee that this may last a lifetime! I couldn't be happier with anyone else. Thanks for the heads up about Thursday, but I think you can take me off your mail list now! Yippee!
RN
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MARCH 2006
Libra - Have you been thinking lately that you wish you had somebody you could do all those romantic 'couple' things with -- like the dishes, bathroom chores and grocery shopping? Well, the 1st and 2nd, you spend some serious time considering what you want from a relationship, and with whom you'd like to discuss whose turn it is to clean the toilet. Write down any ideas that seem important. On the 8th and 9th, all this 'What do I want?' and 'With whom do I want it?' thinking could disrupt your humdrum routine -- and that's a good thing. On the 14th, listen to any nagging voices in your head, especially if they tell you it's time to be honest with yourself about what you want. Think deeply on the 19th -- find out what you really, really feel. If you have a bout of the blues on the 23rd, you know you're doing a good job of looking hard at yourself. It's time to act on the 29th -- walk right up to whomever you have your eye on and say 'hello.' You're ready to give this whole relationship thing a try!
Scorpio - On the 3rd and 4th, a romantic relationship -- or a potential romantic relationship -- may disrupt your weekend. Are you thinking about this person so much that you can't concentrate? Or are you getting to know them and having a few personality clashes? Maybe you already know them and you're still clashing? Whichever it is, it may be a good sign for things to come. Really! On the 9th and10th, you get what you want, and if what you want is them, they will likely be more than happy to deliver. You might have trouble with a romantic decision on the 15th. Take a time-out and think about where some of your emotional ambivalence is coming from. And yes, you should probably go all the way back to your kindergarten days, if not earlier. On the 20th and 21st, you may take an intense romantic risk. If you do, your cutie should be suitably impressed (if they're not, they may be kind of lame). On the 25th, stay open-minded. Then, on the 31st, tune in to your internal clock radio's 'relationship' channel. What's playing?
Sagittarius - The month starts, on the 1st or 2nd, with a rendezvous in the woods (or on the beach, or somewhere else equally exciting) that gets your blood pumping, your heart beating and a healthy sweat going. And the whole thing could very well wrap up with a kiss! Wow -- what a workout! On the 6th, you get pretty philosophical about the whole 'heart' thing, and whoever is kissing you (or should be, if they aren't) will be mighty happy to hear your thoughts on the matter. You're one lucky duck on the 11th, and if you decide to gamble romantically, you almost certainly will end up a winner. On the 16th, don't forget that your friends love you, too -- maybe you should give them a call. You wake up feeling refreshed and romantic on the 20th, and on the 21st, you aren't the only one waking up that way. On the 26th, you start the day with a great romantic chat -- don't worry if you're tuckered out by evening after all that talking! The 31st is your day, when you do it all -- walk, talk, run and jump. And you could very well end the month with another great, big kiss!
Capricorn - As usual, the month begins on the 1st. But your romantic month starts on the 3rd, and once it gets started .... Wow -- it means business! So when those romantic vibrations begin to hit you on the 3rd and 4th, go ahead and indulge. After all, your month of romance would like you to welcome it with open arms! On the 9th, don't take a teensy-weensy romantic misunderstanding personally, and it'll blow over faster than you can say 'Kiss me, darling!' On the 14th, plan a few unusual dates, and on the 18th, ask your friends for even more unusual outing ideas. Don't worry, you'll need to use every single one of those ideas sooner or later! After a slow-moving morning on the 22nd, your day springs into full romantic action, and you're more than ready to enjoy it. On the 27th, tell your love (or potential love) how you feel with a song. No, really. They'll like it!
Aquarius -On the 1st of the month there's electricity in the air, and you're generating at least half of it. So, who's generating the other half? Make sure you find out on the 2nd. It will make for a superromantic month, guaranteed. The afternoon of the 5th, be sure you make it out of the house, even if you're having an incredibly lazy Sunday -- there is something totally scintillating waiting for you out there! On the 10th, you could experience a host of romantic impulses. Do you give in? Or not? What will happen? The answers to at least a few of these questions could appear on the 15th, accompanied by a 'Whoa, I get what's been going on with me now' kind of feeling. Super! On the 20th and 21st, you feel kind of tingly all over. Is it love? By the 25th, you know (and judging by how good you feel, the answer is likely 'yes'). Enjoy all of that crackling and zapping you experience on the 29th. Is it a lightning storm or your heart causing all that commotion?
Pisces - If you have a spicy dream sequence or two in the early, early hours of the 1st, take note: These rumblings might tell you more than you think about what's happening in your romantic subconscious. Hang onto whatever clarity you find in the very first hours of the month, because when day breaks the 1st, you could have a short period of confusion (probably two days). Things clear up for two very romantic days, the 3rd and 4th, but more confusion follows on the 5th and 6th. Then comes lots of romance on the 7th, 8th and 9th. What a roller coaster! Just keep checking in with yourself, and do your best to figure out how to enjoy the ride. On the 15th and 16th, you could squabble over a romantic matter; try your best to have it sorted out by the evening of the 17th. On the 23rd, you get a much-appreciated helping hand. Wow, what nice fingers they have! On the 26th, put on your party clothes and your amorous mindset -- there's love waiting out there for you in the night!
Aries - After some late-night, into-the-wee-hours turbulence in your subconscious, you wake up on the 1st feeling refreshed and totally ready for romance. But don't forget to write down any weird dreams you've had. Did you fall in love with a piece of asparagus in your sleep? Were your riding a turquoise rocket ship with a cockpit that resembled your second-grade classroom? Were you navigating, or just a passenger? It could all be important, you know. The 2nd is even more romantic, and by the time your 'I want to talk about it' juices start flowing on the 5th, 6th and 7th, you have a heck of a lot to say! On the 11th, you have even more romance waiting for you -- is it possible? On the 12th, you are just one big bundle of love! Spend the daylight hours of the 17th pampering your (potential) partner. At night, go ahead and collect your reward -- chances are, even if you're feeling emotionally needy, your love is going to be more than ready to return your pampering favors. On the 23rd, take the lead in an emotional decision, but on the 28th, don't try to make any big decisions before lunch. Instead, spend the morning looking through your dream journal.
Taurus - If you wake up long before sunrise on the 3rd and you don't have to get up yet, go back to sleep! You need your beauty rest for the extraordinarily romantic few days that are in store for you this first weekend of the month. Yep, through the morning of the 5th, you're in for one fairy-tale romance moment after another, whether that means smooching on a balustrade in the starlight or kissing over a toasty espresso. If, on the 10th and 11th, you say 'latte' and your date says 'no way,' because they want their coffee black with sugar, don't try to change them. You two can just order your own separate drinks, for goodness sake! If your romance muscles feel stiff, flabby, sore or underused on the 16th, why not get yourself to the romance gym and do a set or two of love weights? You never know what can happen .... On the 21st, you could charm the sweatband off of your sweetie if given half the chance. On the 26th, talk to your friends, and on the 31st, it's time to wake up and smell the love that's brewing!
Gemini - If you have any odd dreams in the early hours of the 1st, make an extra effort to write them down when you wake up. If you don't remember any dreams, take a few moments before you roll out of bed to let your mind wander -- you could discover something interesting about what you really want from a potential romantic partner. On the 5th, 6th and 7th, you may notice that this early-in-the-month insight into your subconscious leads to some very direct flirting. But would you flirt with just anybody? No way -- the new you, the one who knows exactly what they want, flirts with the best potential partner. Yep, you're using all your charms on the future Mr. or Ms. Right. On the 13th, your new energy-efficient flirting skills impress even you. Then, on the 18th and 19th, you head into totally new romantic territory. On the 23rd, make sure people in your vicinity (especially your 'maybe baby') don't have something up their sleeves. Get some 'love, etc.' advice from your friends on the 29th.
Cancer - Don't be surprised if a particularly deep insight into why you run your romantic life the way you do comes to you in the nighttime hours of the 1st. Whether it arrives in a dream or it's a paradigm-shattering thought that wakes you up, this notion sheds light on a pattern that's been eluding you. And it should open up a few new possibilities for you on the very flirty 3rd and 4th, when it could brighten any evening activity. Nobody works a dinner party like you do, right? Yes, you leave a trail of pink cheeks and smiles everywhere you go. Have another canape at a get-together on the 7th, and you could attract somebody's eye (and maybe their heart, too). Maximize your romantic impact on the 8th: Wear your favorite sweater. On the 13th, you make your point. You might feel a little unsure of yourself emotionally on the 18th and 19th -- go for a jog or a walk and see if that doesn't help. On the 23rd, take a day of extremes and turn it into an extremely romantic evening. By the time that hors d'oeuvre party rolls around on the 31st, you might be helping yourself to more than just mini quiches.
Leo - On the 1st or 2nd, you could very well meet someone who sparks your interest more than anyone you've encountered in a while has. So, are you the match and they the tinderbox? Or vice versa? It doesn't really matter once those old sparks are flying, does it? On the 6th, tell your friends about this rather intense individual and see what they have to say. Then go with your gut. On the 10th and 11th, whatever you want, baby, you get. Don't try to fuel the fire with expensive gifts on the 14th -- your sweetie will appreciate something that comes from the heart a lot more. The 20th and 21st are your five-alarm romance days, so strap on your fire-proof uniform and grab your ladder! On the 25th, don't forget that an ego clash can be a good sign between two fiery individuals like you and the object of your affection. Spend the morning of the 30th learning something new about them, and the evening keeping the peace. Maybe you two should consider adopting a Dalmatian puppy?
Virgo - If you've been thinking that a little intimate dinner for two at that schnitzel place down the street might be the perfect icebreaker for you and the cutie you've been eyeing, reserve a table in the back for the 3rd or 4th. There's a very high probability that you two could have a meeting of minds over a nice, hearty meal. On the 7th, focus on work at work and on love after hours (not vice versa!). You could see the positive romantic effects of this savvy strategy on the 13th and 14th. On the 17th, make another date -- and make it interesting. Wow! What are you two cooking up? On the 23rd, it's like you've won the romance lottery -- so splurge on champagne (or sparkling apple juice), then take your sweetie out for dinner and dessert. For goodness sake, don't start the 28th by criticizing your potential pumpkin, or you could end the day eating alone.
Love Horoscopes are courtesy of www.love.astrology.com
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So how are those New Year's resolutions going? Shocking, but it's already March and a good time to check in to see if you're on track. If you've veered a bit, don't despair - there is one thing you can focus on to get you back on track:
When I went to a session back in March 2005, I met an amazing man, Darcy. We've been so happy, and strong, and we foresee that this may last a lifetime! I couldn't be happier with anyone else. Thanks for the heads up about Thursday, but I think you can take me off your mail list now! Yippee!
MARCH 2006
