I met a guy through work and we seemed to really hit it off. So far we have gone for "business" lunches that last for around 2hrs because we both seem to lose track of time! I have made some pretty obvious suggestions that we should see each other outside of work, and he has too.. but he doesnt ask. I tried to ask him out, and he said that he had other plans. Am I just wasting my time with this guy, or should I be patient and let him make the next move?
Dating Challenged & Frustrated
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Dear Dating Challenged & Frustrated,
I can see why you are frustrated. You are receiving a lot of mixed messages from this guy. In order to make a decision, focus on what he DOES rather than what he says. His score is low in the "Does Department" right now because, 1) He has not asked you out despite suggestions you've made, 2) When you asked him out, he said he had other plans BUT did not suggest an alternate time. He says he would like to see you outside of work but, until he asks you, you should put him aside. In the future, keep your business meetings short (no more 2 hour ones!) and schedule something that makes you feel good afterwards, "Hi Mr. Mixed Messages, I can only meet for an hour today because I'm meeting my friend at the gym". Because of the way men are wired, if you are too available, they lose interest. Allow him to make the first move and in the meantime, keep your options open.
