Her Parents Don't Like Me Hi. I'm 17. I've been dating a girl for a few months. I'm a VERY paranoid person. VERY. When I met her mother she got the COMPLETE wrong idea of me just because the color of my hair. This may sound like a joke to you right about now, but PLEASE take me seriously. Now she won't let me speak to her daughter or anything. We've been trying to see each other secretly. I'm a pretty good person. Never done drugs, never drank or smoked. I'm a virgin. I have done nothing wrong, to really make her mad at me, she just judged me. I love this girl. I'd do anything for her. It's the same with her. No, this isn't just some teen fling. Problem is, her ex-boyfriend is loved by her parents and is determined to stay with her. She tells me she doesn't want anything to do with him. Therein lies the problem. Her parents adore him. I just have the feeling she's seeing him again, and just wants to keep it from me. Yet she still talks to me every chance she gets. Now, I don't know if this is just me being paranoid, because I always am, or she really is doing this. I really don't know what to do. Should I stop trying, or stick it out? I offered her mother a chance to sit and talk to me, but she hasn't returned it. HELP!!
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I have no doubt that your feelings for this girl are very strong and sincere. My issue is not so much with her parents, it is with her. The first thing you need to do is find out where her feelings for you lie. You say her feelings are the same in intensity but you also have a feeling she is still seeing her ex. Trust is the basis of a good relationship so this needs to be established first. As for her parents, your relationship with them is secondary and if you are honest, caring and compassionate, they will eventually see that. There is no sense in focusing on getting them to like you if their daughter is still seeing her ex. I encourage you to take a step back - have an honest conversation with this girl and figure out what you are going to do. If she wants to be with you, and only you, then work on deepening that relationship. Down the road, meet with her parents and they will clearly see how you two are meant for each other. If, on the other hand, she is being wishy-washy, taking blame for some stuff, blaming other stuff on her parents and ultimately still seeing her ex, than I would suggest moving on. You will be happier in the long run.
